Explanation of Pillow Talk: The Sensual Relationship Game

Pillow Talk: The Sensual Relationship Game is played with the aid of a game board, 1 die, 2 game pieces, 60-second timer, question cards, theme cards, token cards, pass cards, and surprise cards.  Question cards focus on sexually intimate questions and situations which initiate open and honest communication.  Players must practice using ÒIÓ statements with each question.

            Theme cards are topics of sexual intimacy and/or relationships.  They are meant to spark conversation, where players can naturally reveal their thoughts on these topics.  Theme cards are modeled after traditional tarot cards.  Each card features beautiful, erotic art by Allan Harms, which parallels the theme.  A short definition or statement about each theme is also included to help participants disclose their innermost thoughts.  Theme cards such as Love, Compassion, and Trust, signify warmth found in close relationships.  Manipulation, Abuse, and Judgment are theme cards that denote negative aspects of relationships.

The 13 token cards are the gameÕs main focus.  The cards include such issues as jealousy, in-laws, and fear.  These issues are some of the biggest problems individuals face in their relationships.  By working through and resolving these issues, individuals will discover the beauty of being connected to another human being.

Each player is given 3 pass cards at the start of the game, which allow that player to pass or skip a question or theme card the player is uncomfortable with.  When a player lands on square 75 and successfully discusses the token card, that player gets to pick a surprise card.  Surprise cards are the prizes you get for winning the game.  However, with Pillow Talk, both partners win as most prizes entitle couples to wonderful and exciting treats they can enjoy together.

At the beginning of each game, participants must pick 3 pass cards and 1 token card each.  Players roll the die and make their way through the squares on the board as in the traditional Snakes and Ladders game.  However, with Pillow Talk, players must perform the task on each square before advancing. 

The game board has 75 squares.  The majority of the squares are question card squares, where participants must pick a question card and answer it.  The second most numerous square is the theme card squares.  If a player lands here, the player must pick a theme card and discuss how the topic relates to him or her in their relationship.  A few squares on the board ask players to pick a theme card and ask their partner a question based on it.   Other squares include roll again and miss a turn and are self-explanatory.

Players travel around the board, disclosing their innermost thoughts and feelings to their partner until one player lands on the finish square (square 75).  Here, the player must successfully discuss the token card to win the game and receive a surprise card.

            Pillow Talk also comes with a number of blank question, theme, surprise, and token cards so couples can tailor the game to fit their relationship.  If there is a particular question someone is dying to ask their partner they can include it in the game.  Couples can also paint or draw on the blank theme cards to include topics important to their relationship.  Most importantly, couples can modify the token cards to work through specific issues that are pertinent to their relationship.

Pillow Talk: The Sensual Relationship Game is designed to be the stimulus for couples to self-disclose in a reciprocal manner.  The gameÕs humorous questions and spiritual qualities create an environment conducive to loving and caring.  It is the type of tool that couples can use regardless of whether the intimacy in their relationship is waning or not.